OMG! It's been way too long since I've posted :-( And not only that but I haven't read any of the blogs I follow in over 2 weeks! I've just been so busy lately and I don't like it.
My trip to Florida was awesome! It was really great to spend some relaxing beach time with my sister. It was really good to see Grandma too. My sister and I did nothing but sit on the beach and read all day every day :-)
So I'm have issues with one of my closest friends right now. I'm hoping someone out there in the blog-o-sphere can lend some advice.
I've written on here that Johnny and I have had some tough times lately. I feel like things are getting better and we have been much more open about communicating with each other. Well of course my friend K has heard me complain numerous times about Johnny when something isn't going right in our relationship. She took it upon herself to spy on him while I was in Florida. I had no idea this was going on until one of our other friends, D, told me about it when I got back. The fact that K went behind my back and took information I told her and used against me really hurt. Then, last week she suggested a happy hour for me, her and our friend D. Little did I know that this happy hour was going to be an intervention for me on why I shouldn't be with Johnny. It ended up that we didn't talk about Johnny and I at all but again I found this out after the happy hour had ended. So then the day after said happy hour I get a blast email from her where she bad-mouthed Johnny for about 3 pages. I emailed her back and said that I thought we should talk about her feelings in person within the next few days. Well she responded that she is really busy until next week but then she could chat.
I'm pissed because she is the one who wrote the email and now when I suggest talking about it in person she can't find any time in the next week for us to discuss it?! If she supposedly cares so much about my happiness (which she said in the email) then I would think she could move a few things around or stay up late to chat with me. I resent her for the things she said about Johnny because she said some pretty cruel things and I feel like she could have found a nicer way to say them. I know that Johnny and I aren't perfect but that doesn't give her the right to blast him like that. I feel like I never want to tell her anything about Johnny ever again. We'll still be friends but not as close as we were. I feel like we're in 6th grade and she passed me a note with some pretty significant things in it and now she is avoiding me to talk about it. WE'RE 25!!!!!!!! Let's be grown-ups!
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sorry you are having problems with your friend. Sometimes it is hard to talk face to face... I am sure she just wants you to be happy and doesn't know how to approach the subject correctly. Try to give her the benefit of the doubt and listen to what she has to say but don't let her sway your decision. Only you and Johnny know how good or bad your relationship really is because you are the only two involved. Good luck!
UGH! The friend/best friend/boyfriend issues of life are never ending.
Unfortunately I am in the position of the friend disliking the boyfriend very muchly most of the time.
I sympathize with your friend, but also with you.
Your friends need to make a decision as your best friends to support you no matter what. Its like a marriage, for better or worse, in good times and bad, your friends should be around to help you out. I hope your friend realizes there is no time like the present to decide to be an adult and discuss the situation just like that, grown ups!
Wow. When I began reading this post is sounded like she had a little incident with wanting to help you and went about it the wrong way. I see know that's not the case. I'm sorry that your friend would go behind your back and then try to tear you and Johnny apart. But honestly, to me it sounds like jealousy. Does she have a relationship with her boyfriend that's as nice as yours? Does she even have a boyfriend at all? Either way, don't worry. The only opinion that matters in your relationship with Johnny is yours and Johnny's. K can go get her own man.
On a lighter note though, I'm happy you had fun in Florida!!!:)
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